Well, first you need to establish if this person is even open to seeing you. I don't mean she'll have a problem with you personally, but if she has endured something awful then she may not want to see anyone at all. Sometimes all you want is time alone to process everything.
But if she's not that sort, then think deeply about what you know about her. Does she have a favourite food? If she's trying to process trauma then she'll likely not be in the mood to cook. Can you make that for her, or at least bring it to her? Don't make it any random dish, regardless of whether it is nutritious or not. Show that you know her well enough to bring her her favourite.
... you know you pretty much described exactly what happened with that first part that's kind of crazy
hmm so like do something to make that person's life a little easier maybe do something for them that they don't want to do right now just take care of it for them right?
Did I not say my advice was second-to-none? Do try to listen to me, Jotaro.
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But you're exactly right, yes. All the annoying regular requirements in life don't stop just because you're going through a hard time. There's still food to be made, dishes to be cleaned, laundry to be done...and if your friend really is suffering, having a filthy apartment is only going to impede her progress towards recovery. I'm not saying you need to turn into her live-in maid, but visiting occasionally to bring her favourite groceries and meals will go a long way.
On that note, does she have a favourite fruit, or scent? Buy her some of those 'bath bubble bombs' or whatever they're called, in that flavour. It will encourage her to want to keep up a basic standard of cleanliness, and is another method of showing you care enough to know the things she likes.
Now, you can find them in that beauty store where we met; they're tightly-packed powder that dissolves once you place them in water. I've tried a few myself and they're rather delightful. I find they cheer me up, anyway.
Not that I'm trying to imply I require cheering up, but I'm sure you know what I mean. They're fun and your friend may enjoy their pleasant simplicity. Besides, everyone enjoys a bath.
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i guess i don't really think about whether something is expensive or not i mean not when i'm buying it we never did at my house so i guess i don't really notice that much
i mean until other people point it out then i start thinking about it
Well, with your Chroma balance I can understand why price would be no object. Do try to be a little conservative! Emergencies can strike at any time - then you'll be glad you saved.
You can't blame me for calling you crude and indecent when you're being crude and indecent! Don't think I'm so naive that I can't puzzle out what you and your 'special' person do together! Honestly!
But I will not judge you to your face. It would not befit a noble like myself.
that you engage in adult activities so blatantly! In such language! Say that you spend intimate time together, or that you see a great deal of each other, or SOMETHING! Use your imagination!
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it's not my business to go around talking about it to people
so i can't say a lot about what it was
but it's not just some stupid thing
it's bad
like
fuck up your whole life bad
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Well, first you need to establish if this person is even open to seeing you. I don't mean she'll have a problem with you personally, but if she has endured something awful then she may not want to see anyone at all. Sometimes all you want is time alone to process everything.
But if she's not that sort, then think deeply about what you know about her. Does she have a favourite food? If she's trying to process trauma then she'll likely not be in the mood to cook. Can you make that for her, or at least bring it to her? Don't make it any random dish, regardless of whether it is nutritious or not. Show that you know her well enough to bring her her favourite.
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you know
you pretty much described exactly what happened with that first part
that's kind of crazy
hmm
so like
do something to make that person's life a little easier
maybe do something for them that they don't want to do right now
just take care of it for them
right?
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[That being said...]
But you're exactly right, yes. All the annoying regular requirements in life don't stop just because you're going through a hard time. There's still food to be made, dishes to be cleaned, laundry to be done...and if your friend really is suffering, having a filthy apartment is only going to impede her progress towards recovery. I'm not saying you need to turn into her live-in maid, but visiting occasionally to bring her favourite groceries and meals will go a long way.
On that note, does she have a favourite fruit, or scent? Buy her some of those 'bath bubble bombs' or whatever they're called, in that flavour. It will encourage her to want to keep up a basic standard of cleanliness, and is another method of showing you care enough to know the things she likes.
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It is good of you to do this, by the way.
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roses
i always buy them rose stuff when i can help it
stuff that smells like roses i mean
and the flowers too i guess
what are bath bubble bombs
this person likes baths
this sounds like a good idea so where do i get them
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Now, you can find them in that beauty store where we met; they're tightly-packed powder that dissolves once you place them in water. I've tried a few myself and they're rather delightful. I find they cheer me up, anyway.
Not that I'm trying to imply I require cheering up, but I'm sure you know what I mean. They're fun and your friend may enjoy their pleasant simplicity. Besides, everyone enjoys a bath.
[All of that italic text is formatted completely un-ironically, by the way. Tone is important!]
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yeah
okay, i can do that
i'll make dinner or something
food
and then do the bath
that's not expensive or anything but it's still nice
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It sounds like this person is very dear to you, so I'm sure you'll manage to show it. In your own....unique way.
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i mean not when i'm buying it
we never did at my house so i guess i don't really notice that much
i mean until other people point it out
then i start thinking about it
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moonblessing i mean
dragons make chroma like crazy
which in and of itself is one thing
but my special person uh
they
never mind
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you're going to flip your shit at me
and say i'm being crude or indecent or something
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But I will not judge you to your face. It would not befit a noble like myself.
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there
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YOU SAID "MY SPECIAL PERSON WHAT, EXACTLY? COME ON, DRAGON BOY"
THAT'S LITERALLY ASKING FOR DETAILS
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that you engage in adult activities so blatantly! In such language! Say that you spend intimate time together, or that you see a great deal of each other, or SOMETHING! Use your imagination!
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sometimes i hand them a small material object and our fingers brush
and i get a shitload of chroma from it
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